I cannot even begin to understand what you may be up against because our pain is not the same. However, we’re all up against something in life and if we choose to let it define us for the better then we’ve accumulated another one of life’s precious gems: heartfelt advice.
Just over a year ago I went through a traumatic experience and despite this I knew I had no choice but to keep on going. So I’m going to offer some generic advice for life which includes what I did to help me get through this difficulty. I also include what I could have done now I look back and contemplate.
You feel like you’ve hit a dead end. Or it’s a turning point and the roads so narrow that you’ve swerved. Or maybe you’ve been stuck in a pit for a long time and are struggling to get out.
1) Isolate to contemplate but not so you sink into despair. Living in a fast-paced environment means we don’t always get to have time to ourselves. Put aside five to ten minutes on a daily basis and empty yourself of any negativity. Perhaps you may even get that ‘light-bulb’ idea you were searching for.
2) Pour your heart out to a friend, family member or any support system you can find. The comfort came from the meaningful advice I was presented with or having someone listening to me. Sometimes, that’s all you want really, to have a listening ear. Or you may find yourself on the giving end where you don’t know how to comfort the person in need. Just be honest and simply say, ‘How can I help you? What would you like me to do?’
3) Isolation is good but staying cooped up in a dark room with no fresh air is not. Maybe try taking a long walk, put some loose change in your pocket, have your oyster card topped up with your phone fully charged and see where your feet take you. London is an amazing place to get lost in…but be careful where you go.
4) Keep yourself preoccupied with a list of things you want to accomplish, participating in University events and acquiring new hobbies when you have free time from assignments.
5) Don’t remain silent. If you’re having trouble and it may be affecting your mind-set then you need to tell someone. Whether it’s your lecture or University support systems, you don’t want to keep it to yourself and then regret it later on.
6) Take notice of life’s simple blessings whether it’s a healthy body, loving friends and family, or the gentle smile of a stranger. Being grateful for what we already have makes it easier to endure what comes our way.
What is the point in weeping when you have the chance to become mightier in your resilience? (That is an SSA Cavendish quote don’t you dare steal it 😀 )
This was adapted from the article I wrote for one of the early issues of the QH.
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